"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth." 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 8a
"Black Love is not a trend, it is a necessity."
We are the essence and fruit of black love. If you are of African American descent, then you know that our love was not an option; it was necessary for our ancestors to make it through tough times. Did you know that upon our entry by way of slave ships into North American soil, black people were separated by slave trades and denied the ability to unite in love through marriage?
My grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Odell and Jannie Brown were married for over 60 years.
Many enslaved couples would risk their lives to get married. They were "whipped" for visiting a loved one without permission. Enslaved couples began the tradition of jumping the broom to officiate their marriage. Black love was our way of exhibiting both faith and courage.
Black love grew stronger over the years. The family became stronger, and love became a part of our heritage as we were freed from slavery and restored. However, the picture of healthy black love was not exhibited in mainstream entertainment. The media did not want to portray our love for family because it depicted freedom, courage, and resistance. Love shows up in all forms in our life. There is a history behind black families and black love. We fought for family, and we fought for love. We won.
Black love reminded us that our ancestors were strong and unbreakable (Jasmine Morris). So if you see our hashtag, #blacklove, know that it's for a reason—a reason of deep pain, deep love, and deep perseverance.
Note: The story of black love is told in our series this week as we celebrate a week that love is celebrated nationally. I also shared personal pictures of family members that remind me of the deepest love and are my foundation. I hope this reminder of our history helps you to remember who you are and the depth of your history. You are the fruit of love.